Sunday, January 17, 2016

Grace, from R.J. Grune

Next time you are anxious about your salvation, about whether you are good enough or believe enough or pray enough or have the right feeling or have earned your acceptance by God in some other way, I recommend that you go to this page and just read. And read again. And read again,

What you will find there is the distilled Gospel, and it's the antidote for common American religiosity.

I thought about copying them out, but I didn't want to do it without permission. But trust me. You want to read these- and maybe copy them down.

They're at http://www.rjgrune.com/blog/25-quotes-on-grace

When you're done, ask yourself the question at the bottom of the page: What quotes about the scandalous message of grace has messed with you? 

Thursday, January 7, 2016

How do you tell a legitimate fear from OCD?

Telling the difference is easy. Using it is not. One of the “slogans” that has become standard in OCD circles comes from Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz’s Brain Lock: “If it feels like OCD, it is.”

Think of the last time you realized that something real and healthy in your life needed your attention and should be acted on. Think of how that felt. Think even if a reasonable, rational fear that you had. Compare your emotional reaction to that reasonable fear with what OCD feels like. See what I mean? They’re not even remotely alike.

If it’s vague and creepy, it’s OCD. If it’s reasonably specific and prompts you to reasonable action, it’s healthy. “I’d better not date that married man because adultery and even coveting my neighbor’s husband violates the Ten Commandments” will produce an entirely different emotion from “If I eat a half-ripe banana I’ll go to hell.” Check it out. Reasonable and healthy fear of displeasing God leads you to behavior that will avoid doing so, or, at least, pushes you in that direction. OCD simply produces fear. If there is any impetus toward action, it’s vague and nebulous and irrational.

The problem is training oneself to recognize the difference without too much dithering (aka “obsessing”) about something.

One thing I’ve found useful and highly recommend is mindfulness. I have ADHD as well as OCD and my thoughts are always flying wildly around bouncing off walls. This feeds into my OCD because sometimes I get distracted and can’t remember what thought produced the fear reaction! So what I do is concentrate on what’s going on around me at the moment rather than on my thoughts. If the problem is real it will return to my mind in a way that enables me to address it calmly and rationally. If it’s not, it won’t.

If you cultivate that habit of observing the external world around you rather than living inside your head you’ll discover that God has designed us in such a way that if we simply relax and let the human mind He designed work, it will do what it needs to when it needs to without our messing with it. You may have noticed that if you obsess even about a real problem the solution will elude you. Or if you can’t remember somebody’s name (something that happens to me more and more often as I get older), the worst thing you can do is to ransack your memory. That will only drive the answer away. But if you relax and think of something else, sooner or later the answer will simply pop into your mind.

Repentance works that way too. If you try to make yourself repent for something, you can relax, because you already have. All that’s lacking is to accept God’s forgiveness. But if we torture ourselves and try to make ourselves feel bad (it’s amazing how many people think that repentance is an emotion!) we stop ourselves from accepting God’s forgiveness and short-circuit the whole process.

God knew what He was doing when He designed your brain. It’s designed to respond to what’s going on around you, in the world- not to what’s going on inside your mind. When you need to address a thought or a deed or an emotion, you won’t have to make yourself do it. The Holy Spirit will bring it to your attention if it’s a spiritual matter. Or if it’s not, the mind will do the job on its own if you just don’t get in the way.

So the impulse to ransack your brain is almost certainly OCD. A response to something in the outside world which results in a reasonable and appropriate thought or emotion is healthy fear. If you make a mistake somehow (which is unlikely), so what? You’re a sinner. You sin every day. But you’re also a believer, covered with the mantle of forgiveness purchased by Christ’s blood.

Another thing that might help is to bear in mind that in itself- apart from Christ- even our most selfless and charitable thoughts fall short of God’s minimum standards of holiness. Considered in ourselves, we cannot not sin in our every thought, word and deed. It’s only in Christ that even our good works are good! So why not take Paul’s “advice,” and rely on His having “gotten it right” instead of panicking at the thought that you haven’t, or aren’t?

Again, I strongly recommend Dr. Osborn’s book. In it, he’ll show you how Martin Luther, St. Thérèse of Lisieux, John Bunyan, and other Christians who had OCD dealt with it. And despite the different theological traditions they represent, you’ll be amazed to discover that the answer they hit upon was pretty much the same!

Sunday, January 3, 2016

This is how God does things

Rod Rosenbladt, a Lutheran theologian, tells the true story of wrecking his father's Buick 8 when he was sixteen years old. Rod was drunk, as were all his friends who were in the car. The first thing Rod's dad asked him over the phone was whether he was all right. Rod said yes. He also told his father he was drunk. Later that night, Rod wept and wept in his father's study. At the end of the ordeal, his father said one thing: "How about tomorrow we go get you a new car." Rod says now that he became a theist in that moment. God's grace became real.

When Rod tells that story, there are always a few people in the audience who get mad. They say, "Your dad let you get away with that?! He didn't punish you at all?" And Rod says, "No," adding the following: "Do you think I didn't know what I had done? Do you think it was not the most painful moment of my whole life up to that point? Do you think the law wasn't cutting me down to nothing?" Rod's father spoke the word of grace in that moment. In that eternal encounter, for it reflected the mechanism of God's grace, there was no law. The law's dominion came to an end. Grace superseded it.
--"Grace in Practice" by Paul Zahl